courageous traveler: catherine boyd
Monday, November 9th, 2009
Name: Catherine Witten Boyd (Cath)
Age: Pushing 30
Profession: Author/Artist/Teacher/Wanderer/Daydreamer
Website: www.daffado.com
Current location (City,State, Country): Seoul, Seoul, South Korea
1.) It’s often said that the travel bug “bites.” How old were you when you were “bitten by the travel bug”? Describe a bit about what prompted you to take the initial trip, where you were at in your life at the time, and why/how that travel experience caused you to crave more travel.
I don’t think I was bitten. The the bug was passed from my mother to me in the womb. I never remember a time in my life when I wasn’t acutely aware that there was something “bigger’ out there. I traveled extensively in Australia with my family as a child, and spent the majority of my high school years saving for a world trip. But after high school I did the sensible thing and went to University. When I graduated I was offered a “once in a lifetime” chance to work with the Psychology Team at the NSW Institute of Sport, so once more I did the sensible thing, took the position, moved to Sydney, and put the travels on the backburner again. All things considered, I should have felt like things were going well. I was doing all the right things, and meeting all the right people. But I knew that there was so much of the world that I wanted to experience, and so much of myself that I needed to learn about. The turning point came when I got a phone call from my bestie who was teaching in Korea. I told her how I was feeling and she told me I should go to her, that there was a position opening up at her school. 3 weeks later I was on a plane.
2.) What countries have you traveled to?
I’ve traveled extensively in Australia (my home country). I’ve vacationed in Jamaica, New Caledonia, Bali and Japan. I’ve lived, traveled and worked for several years in both South Korea and the U.S. I traveled across China and have done extensive travel and volunteer work in South East Asia (Thailand, Cambodia and Vietnam).
3.) Of all the places you’ve been, where have you felt most connected to a place, and why?
I definitely feel connected to Asia. It’s like I can’t leave – it keeps calling me back. South East Asia, in particular, calls to me. I love everything about it… the people, the culture, the natural environment, the weather, the way of life. I love the simplicity. I love the smiles. And I love who I am when I’m there. It’s like when I’m there I’m completely full of, and overwhelmed by love. But not love for anyone or anything in particular – more like a feeling of wholeness. It just feels good. I can’t explain it any better than that.
4.) Do you have any routines that you follow for packing, flying, using a hotel room, or for your first day in a new place? Are you a planner, or are you more of a spontaneous traveler?
Both. Definitely both. I spend my life planning travels – but tend not to follow through on plans. When I started traveling I would read extensively about the countries I wanted to visit, then I would book a flight and just show up. I have a natural aversion to “tours” and far prefer solo, independent travel. I’ve find that having no set itinerary means that I don’t miss out on things along the way. When you travel, you’re bound to meet other travelers who know about sweet spots that you don’t. You don’t want to miss out on doing something because you have a boat/train/plane to catch. For me, flexibility is the most important thing. When I’m vacationing, however, I’m much more organized. Particularly when I’m vacationing with my husband or with friends. When you have limited time, you don’t want to waste it searching for accommodation or figuring out the bus schedule.
In terms of routine, there’s nothing really special that I do. I like to be relaxed and comfortable. I always carry with me a sweater, shawl or wrap, and socks so I don’t get chilly during transit. I also always carry with me a book to read, a journal, a pen and a camera. When I first arrive I like to check in and then go exploring. My first day in a new place is always spent wandering…
5.) What do you do to experience a place on a deeper level and see what it’s really about, beyond the tourist traps?
To experience a place on a deeper level, nothing really beats living and working there. But If I’m only in a place for a short time I like to watch, and wander and write. Particularly in nature. I love immersing myself in, and being quiet with nature to provide a sense of closeness and connection to a place.
6.) Some people experience travel as something that they do once a year for a vacation, while others feel that travel is something they are passionate about, and they incorporate it into their lifestyle in different ways. In what ways do you arrange your life so that you can incorporate travel into your lifestyle?
Travel is definitely something that I try to incorporate into my daily life, but I think that the definition of “travel” has changed somewhat for me over the years. When I started traveling, a vacation or a weekend away didn’t count. Travel was something that involved a more in depth, or more intense experience than what a vacation could give me. A “vacation” was a trip that I took to see a place for a week or two – or maybe even 4 or 5 weeks. “Travel” was an experience that involved a more flexible schedule – for me it was basically a situation where I could go to where ever I wanted for as long as I wanted until the money ran out. Now, I’m more concerned about my family life and my work, and I don’t have the flexibility to travel like that anymore. So vacations and weekends away and shorter road trips kind of fill the gap while I wait for the next big adventure. And even the next big adventure isn’t a 6 month experience anymore – it’s a couple of weeks or a month at most. But how it’s different to a vacation that I took 10 years ago is the way I think about it. I approach my vacation, or my long weekend through the eyes of a traveler. Through the eyes of someone who wants to do more than just see the sights. I think that if you’re someone who wants to “travel” and you don’t have the time or the money to do it how you want, you need to approach the smaller things in a different way. To take the road trip or the weekend away and treat it like a travel experience. Because it all counts. They’re all experiences that provide opportunity for learning and growth and freedom.
7.) Many people cite lack of money or lack of time as the major restrictions upon their ability to travel. What helpful advice or encouragement would you offer to someone who wants to travel but who feels money/time to be barriers?
If travel is very important to you, you make the time and you put aside the money. I know that there are people who would love to travel but perhaps can’t make it a priority due to previous commitments (school, mortgage etc). I think you just have to take baby steps… put a few dollars in a travel fund as often as you can until you’ve reached your goal. And as I said before, take small opportunities to be a traveler – take a road trip or a weekend away. Go camping, go on a short retreat. Pitch a tent in the backyard, build a fort in your living room and use your imagination. We’re all travelers. You can be the master of your very own ship without going anywhere.
8.) Do you usually travel alone, or with others? If you travel with others, how do you deal with conflicts that arise? If you travel alone, how do you curb travel-related loneliness?
At the beginning of my days as a gypsy I was a solo traveler – though, let it be said that even when you’re traveling ‘alone’ you actually have to make an effort if you want to be by yourself. I loved traveling alone. It is the most empowering thing I’ve ever done – perhaps will ever do. For me, traveling alone relieved me of the pressure of trying to please people. Also, being someone who likes to just wander with a camera or sit and write, I could make the time to do this without explanation. And, or course, it gave me the best opportunity to really get to know myself.
In those days I never felt lonely. The last solo trip I did was across China. I got the boat from South Korea to Tianjin, and from there went to Beijing, Xi’an and then all the way down to Lhasa, Tibet. The “plan” was to keep going – Nepal, India… But I’d already met my husband, and I missed him terribly. I hated being there without him because I thought he would love it. I felt like he was missing out. So I went back to him.
Since then, all my travel has been with my husband and sometimes with friends – which I adore.
9.) Do you notice that travel allows you to tap into a different side of yourself, a side that normally is hidden or has less permission to show up in day-to-day life? If so, why do you believe that the experience of travel makes it easier for that side to come out?
Once upon a time, travel tapped into a ‘me’ that I’d kept neatly hidden – even hidden from myself. But once she was out and I’d gotten to know her more, I didn’t want to put her back. I gave her permission to stay. I think it’s important to let these sides of ourselves, as much as possible, filter into our day to day lives. It’s all part of growth. All part of the journey. It helps us to live real, true lives.
10.) Have you ever taken a trip that, on the whole, was a negative experience? What would you say you learned from that trip?
I was going to answer this with a simple no. But then I remembered a rip to Australia I took a few months ago…
The trip home was to attend my grandfathers funeral, so it didn’t exactly start out as a positive experience, but the trip back was one of those times when everything that could go wrong did…
My first flight was delayed due to weather, resulting in my missing a connecting flight. My airline had no available flights going out for the rest of the week, so they put my on an Eastern China flight via shanghai. In Shanghai we were delayed getting off the aircraft because people dressed in white jumpsuits and hats and gloves and booties got on to check our temperatures sci-fi style as a swine flu precaution. Half the people on the flight were kept in quarantine – luckily I wasn’t one of them. I ran to my next flight and made it back to Seoul. The last bus from the airport had already left so I took a taxi (for a $200 fare – we don’t live close to the airport and it was 2 in the morning) which crashed on the way home. My very first taxi accident ever. Not a good time.
The whole experience utterly reinforced a need to be patient and flexible when traveling (and always). And to just breathe.
11.) On the whole, what would you say you have learned from the overall experience of travel and the role that travel plays in your life?
Travel has made me who I am. Without it, I wouldn’t be here. Not this version of me at any rate. Travel provides an opportunity to learn such things as patience, tolerance, and empathy in a way that I don’t believe you can get in any other situation. It taught me to really see when I look. To listen to my heart. To let go. And to love. To full blown let it all hang out love. To “be” love. To take it into your whole body and then let it shine out of you from every pore. That kind of love. And that’s stuff that I never want to lose.
12.) Define in your own words what “courageous travel” means to you.
To me, courageous travel means going beyond your limits. Pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. Testing your barriers and your beliefs. Something that I’ve learned through travel more than anything else is to question what I thought I knew. Courageous travel means not only learning something new from the places we go, but bringing that into our day to day lives. It means stretching ourselves. And it means remembering that when we get home – not separating our traveling selves from who we are when we get home, but learning how to incorporate the new stuff with the old stuff. Courageous travel is about allowing ourselves to grow and change from our experiences. Not just seeing it, but living it. Even if you’re afraid. Even if you don’t think you can do it. Courageous travel doesn’t just talk about a single (or several) traveling experiences – it talks about a never ending journey of growth and discovery. We are all travelers in this life. We need to approach every day as an adventure and a chance to learn something new.
13.) Where are you planning to go, next? When?
My husband and I are going to be hippies in Australia over Christmas and Into January – It’s my big three oh and we’re road tripping… we’re back in the US for 5 or 6 weeks early next year, and I’m off to Bali for a friends 30th in May… I’m also hatching a secret plan to see some of India in March – we’ll see how that goes
14.) The most delicious question of all: What destinations are on your fantasy list?
Pretty much everywhere I haven’t been before (laughs). No, seriously, India, Nepal, Peru, a good chunk of Africa…. Spain… I’d love to go across Russia.. should I go on??
Cath is a photo taking, artful mess making children’s book author who loves hugs and hammocks. Find out more at www.daffado.com













